How to Handle Breakups

Depression  after breakups.

Break ups are never easy. Breaking up with a loved one who might be struggling with a psychiatric disorder can be downright painful. Nevertheless, there comes a time in every relationship when it is necessary to evaluate ones options and make “difficult choices”. No one wants to be accused of abandoning a loved one at their greatest time of need. This is not a reason for one to remain in a relationship with no conceivable future, out of a sense of duty or guilt. Sometimes the best option is to leave for the sake ones own mental health. Before it gets to this, be sure you’ve done all you can to salvage the relationship. Otherwise, you may be consumed by guilt or self-doubt, wondering if you did all you could do for your partner and your relationship.

The breakup of a relationship, or a marriage, can be a traumatic event and is cited as a trigger for depression. While it may be painful to say goodbye, keep in mind that breaking up can have positive results too. Research shows that keeping a journal, in which you express your feelings about your breakup, may help turn a potentially negative experience into a positive one.

“Is there anything I can do to help?” Is a magical question.

Sometimes people have a difficult time asking for help- they are either not comfortable with it, consider themselves independent, or simply don’t know how to ask without appearing selfish or needy. Whether or not someone takes you up on your offer, simply asking if you can help, is a supportive gesture to show that the person that you care. Helping others is not only a great way to build friendships and improve relationships, it can also improve a person’s day, project, or experience beyond measure. Never feel bad if someone declines your offer to help. Some people may misunderstand the good intention or the thoughts behind a supportive gesture. Helping people is awesome!

Finally, if you’ve tried everything and your relationship seems hopeless, or worse — toxic — it may be time to walk away. Try to make your partner understand that you still care. Wish them the best, let them know that you need a break for your own sake.It’s probably not a good idea to make any major life changes at this time though. This is not the time to suddenly change your job, or move to another city or town. Give yourself some time to adjust to this new state of being before embarking on another big change in your life. In other words, take care of yourself.

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