Why wait to have sex? it’s a question that hits minds whenever we think of chastity. Sex is everywhere. I mean who doesn’t have sex? Show me a single virgin in this world. Those are the ideologies that are used to justify the reasons why sex is not bad and why we should continue to indulge in the vice!! Jina
Sex is a gift to human kind, He never restricted us from doing it, but are we doing it at the right time? 1st Thessalonians 4:3 depicts God’s desire for us to abstain from all forms of sexual immorality and commands for sanctification.
This Chastity week’s main verse is 1 Corinthians 6:18 that mainly depicts self love since Paul states that sexual sin is the one transgression that we commit against our bodies. Chastity is a pearl, a precious and valuable jewel that most people trample over ever so consistently. Everywhere we turn the world is pulling us away from the ideals of God therefore mastering the virtue of chastity becomes so hard. The ‘hookup’ and ‘shack up’ scene is most campuses is an indication of this. The beauty of chastity and sexual relationships is being eliminated.
People fornicate in the name of ‘cementing their love’. It leads to a tormenting cycle of sex, breakup, pain, sex, breakup, pain all in the name of love. And even if the cycle is not complete and you end up married, chances that the marriage will work are very narrow.
But there is hope for all of us, pure or impure, virgin or not,we all face the struggles of conforming to our flesh as Paul states in Ephesians 2. Let’s start with the single people. L. Alder states that: chasing a person doesn’t give you or build value in you. Value is earned by chasing morality and practicing dignity. Value is a very attractive quality, its going to be a bonus on your application.
For those “walioonekaniwa” a Godly and lasting relationship is built on a foundation of true friendship, affection and companionship. Hope you noted that sex is not part of the foundation. John Paul II said that only chaste women and men are capable of true love. Victor de Riqueti, a famous mentor, “the most chaste woman” and if I may add “may be most voluptuous, if he or she truly loves”
Not all hope is lost for those who may have fallen to the natural desires of the flesh, you are not broken beyond repair. Maybe that’s why I will not use just use any particular author for you. I choose my favorite author of all time. In His book titled the Bible, in 1st John 1:9, He states that He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness. The only condition He gives is that you need to confess your sins. See, there is still assured hope, it lies in your hands.
Donna Babra Kanana